Without a doubt, 2020 is quite a bad year, or should I say a sh*tty year. Here is a great book to read during this suck-y time.
I know you are sick of complaints, but can you deny that this year sucks?
No, you can’t.
A virus has been literally–yes, I am using the word literally–stealing people’s breaths away in a very not good way.
Well, for me personally, this year sucks in a special way. My partner and I are in a long distance relationship; and we used to be able to visit each other monthly. Not anymore. To top it off, thanks to social media, I get to see my peers going on dates. I get to hear first date stories, too.
As jealous as I am, I can’t help but reminisce about my partner and I’s first date. I remembered how my our conversations went deep quite quickly, while being splattered by Merlion’s vomit right on our faces.
He asked about how I see life and the future.
Then, he recommended this book: The Subtle Art of Not Giving A F*ck to me.
“… I think this book will be really useful for you,” he said.
I have seen that familiar orange book many times on the ‘Best Seller’ section in the bookstore; and I genuinely thought it was a comedy book. It never attracted my attention until the day I saw it on his phone screen. I want to have more things which are in common with him, so I went and bought the book a few days afterwards.
And after reading it, here are 3 reasons why I am also recommending The Subtle Arts of Not Giving A F*ck to you, especially during this pandemic situation:
1. It is really well written and hilariously laced with profanities
… And it’s coming from me.
I wasn’t the type who would voluntarily buy and read self help nonfiction books, trust me. But after I tried reading it, The Subtle Art of Not Giving A F*ck turned me into a massive Mark Manson fan (find his blog here).
His writing style, his jokes, and the profanities sprinkled here and there in the book as he smacks you with reality–just like what a very non-toxic close friend would do; made it difficult for me to drop the book.
For people who don’t like self-help books because they are boring, repetitive, and not like a non-toxic close friend, this is for you.
2. It is a more powerful support to face life, than just positivity
Growing up, I was taught to always think positive. When the mind and heart are clean of negativity, so will be your life, some people said. Well, maybe it works sometimes, but I can’t deny how it can be suffocating, sometimes.
I said sometimes, because well, even without this pandemic, horrible things still happen: people you love or care about (or just people from work) betray you, belittle your efforts, and damage your self-esteem;
reality often betrays your expectations;
or maybe during days when you try your best and you don’t succeed, when you get what you want but not what you need, when you feel so tired but you can’t sleep but Coldplay can’t fix you.
… Feels familiar?
A little bit of positivity might work for a short term, but accepting reality, accepting yourself, and choosing what to care about works better is one of the points from the The Subtle Arts of Not Giving A F*ck.
For people like me who worry so much about what other thinks, has somewhat low self esteem, or just entering the world of young adult soon, this is for you.
3. It is an argument backed with actual academic research, and actual experiences
… that actually makes sense AND helpful.
Oh, and the stories might be relatable and inspirational for some people who are going through phases in life (because people DO go through phases in life!).
I read and finished this book a year ago, and actually this book is quite popular as it is, even as I am writing this post now. Although it might be quite late to recommend this book, I just can’t help but to shove this book to your face, since it helps me–just like what my partner said as his glasses got foggier because of the water splashes.
Hopefully things will get better even sooner, and The Subtle Art of Not Giving A F*ck will be able to help you choose what things to give a f*ck about as we stay at home and wait. On a side note, please give a f*ck about wearing masks properly and washing hands!
Anyways, do you think you are going to try reading this book? Or have you read The Subtle Art of Not Giving A F*ck? Leave some comments below!
from Mel to You.
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